Are you curious about what’s happening in your child’s inner world?
Discover how to nurture their resilience and emotional health while understanding your patterns.
Your Patterns Shape Their World
Your child is not just growing—they are absorbing, not just learning, but adapting to the world you create. The Enneagram reveals that our deepest patterns—fears, desires, and automatic reactions—form the environment where children develop their sense of self.
This book is not about typing children but about understanding ourselves as parents. It invites exploring how our patterns shape the conditions that foster our children’s personality, resilience, and self-compassion.
- What if parenting isn’t about fixing but witnessing?
- What if the key to supporting our children’s development is loosening our patterns?
Understanding your child’s inner world.
Every moment, your child’s personality is forming—shaped by the emotional environment you create, your responses, and the patterns you bring into your parenting.
The Enneagram World of the Child is a guide to understanding the powerful forces influencing your child’s inner world. By exploring the connection between personality development and your emotional history, this book offers profound insights into:
- How anger, fear, and shame shape both parent and child.
- What’s happening in your child’s inner world as they develop?
A Journey Through the Sacred Territory of Early Development
Each chapter explores a foundational aspect of personality formation through the lens of the Enneagram and early childhood psychology:
- The Primal Need for Acceptance – How our children first learn who they are through what we welcome or reject.
- The Web of Connection – How attachment forms and how our patterns shape the way children experience relationship.
- The Primary Emotions – How anger, fear, and shame emerge as organizing forces in personality development.
- Anger: Life Force in Action – Why anger is not something to suppress but to understand.
- Fear: The Foundation of Protection – How children develop personal “fear ecologies” and what parents can do to support resilience.
- Shame: The Shape of Self – How early experiences of shame shape identity and how parents can help children move through it.
- The Superego: When Emotions Turn Against the Self – How inner voices form and how parents can create space for self-kindness.
- Curiosity: The Flame of Being – How to nurture a child’s sense of wonder and openness in a world that often shuts it down.
- The Sacred Dance of Development – Recognizing growth as an unfolding rather than a linear process.
- The Sacred Art of Seeing – How to truly see our children beyond our projections, expectations, and unconscious patterns.
Chapters integrate real-life examples, contemplative practices, and practical applications to help parents bring awareness into daily interactions.
- Parents who want to understand how their patterns impact their child’s early development.
- Enneagram students looking for a deeper, applied approach to personality formation.
- Anyone raising a child who desires to create a space of resilience, self-compassion, and presence.
Our children do not need perfect parents. They need parents willing to see them, to see themselves, and to stay present in the unfolding mystery of who they are becoming. The Enneagram is not a system of control but a path of freedom.