Pleasure, Surrender, and the Afterglow of Being
There’s a longing beneath the longing.
A desire hidden within desire itself.
Most of us think we’re chasing pleasure.
But what we’re really chasing…
is ourselves.
The drive for the ultimate orgasm—total, consuming, obliterating-is not just biological, It’s existential.
It’s a coded memory, pulsing in the nervous system, of what it’s like to return to the cosmic ocean of Being.
To dissolve.
To be whole.
To stop holding yourself together.
The French phrase la petite mort—“the little death”—captures this, not as metaphor, but as direct spiritual anatomy.
What dies in orgasm is not the body. It’s the ego. The manager. The one who tries to hold it all together. And when that dissolves, even for a moment, what remains is pleasure so profound it doesn’t need a self to feel it.
That is bliss.
That is Essence.
That is what the soul remembers.
Pleasure Isn’t the Problem. It’s the Proof.
Most spiritual teachings caution against attachment to pleasure. And rightly so—grasping leads to suffering. But the presence of pleasure isn’t the problem. It’s the evidence.
Pleasure is a messenger. It tells us that when we are entirely ourselves, fully open, and wholly surrendered, we are bliss—the spontaneous joy of being.
Pleasure arises spontaneously when the constriction of identity loosens. Not because we get what we want—but because what we are is no longer suppressed. In true nature, pleasure is not the goal. It’s the atmosphere.
Just like the afterglow that follows orgasm: the warm silence, the deep ease, the sense of being inside something sacred. That’s not just neurochemistry. That’s contact with Being.
Meditation Isn’t Control. It’s Disappearance.
Many people approach meditation as if it were a technique to improve themselves. But real meditation is much closer to orgasm than effort. It’s not something you achieve. It’s something that happens when you stop trying to make anything happen.
Like orgasm, real meditation begins when the one who’s “doing it” dissolves. There’s no more watcher. No more seeker. Just isness. Just the wave of presence moving through the field of awareness, like a lover who doesn’t need permission.
In that space, pleasure may arise. Stillness may arise. Bliss may flood you like a remembered language. Or nothing may happen at all—except the unmistakable sense that you’ve returned to where you never left.
The Ultimate Orgasm Is the Disappearance of Distance
Orgasm is the body’s echo of the soul’s longing. We chase it because some part of us knows: this feeling—this pulse, this fire, this surrender—means something.
It means that pleasure is sacred.
It means that you are not separate from bliss.
It means that home is not a place or a practice—it’s a return to the vibration you’ve always been.
You can’t get there by striving.
You can’t force it through discipline.
But you can relax into it.
You can listen to what pleasure is whispering.
You can stop trying to meditate and let meditation happen like the final breath before orgasm—not toward something, but into everything.
So, what is the ultimate orgasm?
It’s not a climax.
It’s a return.
It’s when pleasure, presence, and peace converge—and no one is left to hold them apart.
Let yourself go there.
Not to escape this life, but to enter it fully.
And maybe, just maybe, discover that the bliss you’ve been chasing is what you’ve always been.
This is what Good Vibrations is about.
Not technique. Not performance. But resonance.
A direct return to the frequencies that awaken the truth of your being. HU, OM, AUM—not as chants, but as echoes of a more profound harmony that’s already humming beneath your name. Good Vibrations invites you to stop striving and start tuning. To rediscover pleasure not as indulgence, but as a reflection of your true nature. To let sound become the wave that carries you home.
The door is already open.
You are already vibrating.
Now, listen.
Good Vibrations:
The Primordial Sounds of Existence
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John Harper is a Diamond Approach® teacher, Enneagram guide, and a student of human development whose work bridges psychology, spirituality, and deep experiential inquiry. He is the author of The Enneagram World of the Child: Nurturing Resilience and Self-Compassion in Early Life and Good Vibrations: Primordial Sounds of Existence, available on Amazon.
Very well written and engaging!