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The Ego’s Demand for Permanence in a World of Constant Change The Buddha taught that freedom is not found by controlling experience but by becoming free from attachment. Attachment is the attempt to hold what cannot be held. We cling to pleasure, resist pain, grasp for certainty, defend identity, and seek permanence in a world … Read more
I was reading this article in Neuroscience News about a recent study on memory and the medial temporal lobe, and it sparked a cascade of associations—threads weaving together ancient chanting traditions, modern sound apps, biophoton research, and the deep cosmological insights of Walter Russell, Jacobo Grinberg-Zylberbaum, and others. The researchers find that nerve cells in … Read more
Can the Enneagram illuminate the journey from False Self to True Self? When I wrote The Enneagram & the Arc of Transformation, I was interested in a simple question: “If the Enneagram is understood as a map of process rather than a typology of personalities, does it illuminate the transformational journey described by the Diamond … Read more
Why Honest Parenting Communities Feel So Nourishing One of the most difficult challenges in parenting is learning how to lighten up, especially when it comes to self-judgment. Most parents do not struggle because they care too little. If anything, they struggle because they care so much. They want to do right by their children, to … Read more
How the Attuned Parent Project Uses Self-Awareness to Build Secure Attachment Parents often discover the Enneagram while looking for a better understanding of themselves or their children. Less widely recognized is that the Enneagram can also illuminate how the nervous system organizes itself under stress, particularly within the emotionally charged environment of family life. Viewed … Read more
Does the Sufi Path Follow the Lawful Process of the Enneagram? In previous articles, I explored the remarkable coherence between Gurdjieff’s understanding of the Enneagram as a lawful process of manifestation and transformation and two seemingly very different paths: the Diamond Approach® and Buddhism. Although each tradition employs its own language, practices, and philosophical framework, … Read more
The core purpose of this article is to introduce parents to the foundational paradigm of The Attuned Parent Project (TAPP). In a parenting culture flooded with behavioral hacks, sleep training formulas, and hyper-curated milestones, TAPP offers an alternative: a return to relationship, presence, and authentic seeing. The goal of our work is not to train … Read more
What the Enneagram, the Nervous System, and Direct Experience Reveal About Lasting Change If insight created transformation, most of us would already be transformed, enlightened, and free of our Enneagram type. We live in a culture saturated with information. We have access to books, podcasts, videos, workshops, therapy, spiritual teachings, and an endless stream of … Read more
An Inquiry into the Enneagram of Universal Process (See Author’s Note at Bottom of Page) In my book The Enneagram & the Arc of Transformation, I explored the possibility that the Diamond Approach and Gurdjieff’s understanding of the Enneagram might be describing aspects of the same transformational territory. The goal was not to prove that … Read more
How the Enneagram Reveals the Mechanics of Transformation What Was the Enneagram Originally Designed to Describe? Ask someone about the Enneagram today, and they will almost certainly describe a system of nine personality types. They may tell you about motivations, wings, instincts, growth paths, blind spots, and relationship dynamics. All of that is valuable. The … Read more