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What neuroscience, development, and emotional intelligence reveal about how children actually grow Between fear and performance pressure Parenting today often feels like standing between two loud and conflicting voices. One warns that ordinary mistakes are quietly damaging our children. The other insists that if we don’t optimize early enough—emotionally, cognitively, socially—we’ve already fallen behind. Caught … Read more
Why Personality Insight Alone Eventually Stops Working Seeing More Without Being More The Enneagram of Personality Types is remarkably effective at revealing patterns. It points to how identity forms, how defenses organize, and how suffering is maintained. For many, this brings real relief and real change. But for those who stay with the work, a … Read more
Why the Enneagram Still Imagines a Little Self Running the Show Much of modern Enneagram teaching still assumes there is a little manager inside each type—a miniature operator who decides how to grow, integrate, shift patterns, and “do the work.” It’s an invisible assumption, rarely named, but woven into nearly every instruction: your Type must … Read more
FORCE, DYNAMISM, AND THE BREATH OF BEING Most contemporary interpretations of the inner Enneagram triangle imagine it as a circuit—subtle energy moving along the lines, tracing a path from Nine to Three to Six and looping endlessly, like a mystical electrical grid. This has become the default picture: a flow, a current, a rotation. But … Read more
The Ground for Being Me A child arrives not knowing they exist. They discover themselves in the mirror of their parents’ gaze—not through words, but through presence. Before language, before memory, before the machinery of self-concept begins its relentless construction, there is only this: Am I welcome here? The answer to that question writes itself … Read more
Touch, Temperature, and the Awakening of the Inner World I came across this article in Neuroscience News that explores how temperature changes during something as simple as a hug can deepen body awareness and emotional attunement. What struck me immediately was how profoundly this connects to what we explore in The Enneagram World of the … Read more
Why Our Adult Struggles Begin in the First Years of Life A recent Forbes article argues that self-respect is the answer to most of our problems. The insight is compelling on the surface, but it becomes far more profound when we trace our adult struggles back to the earliest experiences of being seen, held, mirrored, … Read more
Absence, Overwhelm, AI — and the Shape of the Soul Childhood is never just a sequence of events. It’s a subtle interplay of what happens—and what doesn’t; what the child receives, and what the child must build alone. Three recent articles — along with growing concern over AI’s emerging role in child-rearing — reveal how … Read more
You can take the child out of the jungle, but you can’t take the jungle out of the child Once upon a time, childhood unfolded in motion. Feet pounded the earth. Eyes tracked flying insects. Ears tuned to birds, wind, and the subtle tones of distance. Every sound, every step, every glance taught the child … Read more
How Sound Shapes the Soul of a Child Long before words, there is rhythm. Before meaning, there is melody. In the earliest months of life, when the body is still learning how to breathe and the nervous system is a quivering field of impressions, sound is the first bridge between isolation and intimacy. In Nurturing … Read more