Why Honest Parenting Communities Feel So Nourishing One of the most difficult challenges in parenting is learning how to lighten up, especially when it comes to self-judgment. Most parents do not struggle because they care too little. If anything, they struggle because they care so much. They want to do right by their children, to … Read more
How the Attuned Parent Project Uses Self-Awareness to Build Secure Attachment Parents often discover the Enneagram while looking for a better understanding of themselves or their children. Less widely recognized is that the Enneagram can also illuminate how the nervous system organizes itself under stress, particularly within the emotionally charged environment of family life. Viewed … Read more
The core purpose of this article is to introduce parents to the foundational paradigm of The Attuned Parent Project (TAPP). In a parenting culture flooded with behavioral hacks, sleep training formulas, and hyper-curated milestones, TAPP offers an alternative: a return to relationship, presence, and authentic seeing. The goal of our work is not to train … Read more
What neuroscience, development, and emotional intelligence reveal about how children actually grow Between fear and performance pressure Parenting today often feels like standing between two loud and conflicting voices. One warns that ordinary mistakes are quietly damaging our children. The other insists that if we don’t optimize early enough—emotionally, cognitively, socially—we’ve already fallen behind. Caught … Read more
Touch, Temperature, and the Awakening of the Inner World I came across this article in Neuroscience News that explores how temperature changes during something as simple as a hug can deepen body awareness and emotional attunement. What struck me immediately was how profoundly this connects to what we explore in The Enneagram World of the … Read more
Why Our Adult Struggles Begin in the First Years of Life A recent Forbes article argues that self-respect is the answer to most of our problems. The insight is compelling on the surface, but it becomes far more profound when we trace our adult struggles back to the earliest experiences of being seen, held, mirrored, … Read more
What was happening inside me at five years old? My parents didn’t know about the superego, or how fear, anger, and shame were already shaping my inner world. They couldn’t see the lasting impact this would have on my developing sense of self. The Enneagram World of the Child: Nurturing Resiliency and Self-Compassion in Early … Read more
New methods in neuroscience are uncovering what the Enneagram has been pointing to all along. I was reading this article in Neuroscience News about the Big Five personality traits being re-examined through a new data-driven method, and it got me wondering about the connection to the Enneagram. The Big Five (also called the Five-Factor Model … Read more
Part I: Typing the Terrain to Death You’re a Self-Pres 4 with a 5 wing. I’m a Social 9 with a strong 8 line. That explains everything… until it doesn’t. In Enneagram circles, relationships may become elaborate exercises in typological calculus. We analyze our instincts, wings, tritypes, childhood wounds, fixations, harmonics, and the subtypes of … Read more